Infertility and the Process of Becoming a Mother
When you are trying to conceive the two-week wait between ovulation and menstruation can seem like forever. Especially if conception is taking longer than you expected, waiting can be mentally taxing and emotionally draining. You can’t change the wait period but you can change how you face it Instead of letting infertility take over your life, control how you respond to the waiting with these four tips:
Allow yourself Time to Obsess
Instead of finding your mind drifting there and then feeling annoyed and guilty let yourself obsess. Schedule a time in your day if that’s what it takes. Think about pregnancy symptoms or the lack thereof. Read your favorite infertility blogs. Daydream a bit about the excitement you may feel someday soon. If you don’t let yourself work through those feelings, good or bad in a healthy way you won’t be emotionally and mentally prepared for whatever happens next. Your mind will be unsettled because it hasn’t been able to sort through what you are feeling. So let yourself experience the emotions of trying to conceive then once you have felt them move on and focus on something else.
After your obsession-allotted time is over, get busy. Don’t think of activities as distractions but things yourself and be happy in the moment. Part of what makes TTC so hard is feeling like you are stuck in limbo. You are constantly waiting for something without much control over how or when the situation will change. You can use an ovulation calculator to determine your most fertile days which can help minimize the number of months you’re TTC, but you’ll still have to wait. So spend that time wisely. Every month schedule any lunch dates,, girls night or weekend classes for the two weeks after your expected ovulation.
Having someone to talk to will help you cope with the anxiety of the two week wait (TWW). Whether a spouse, friend, parent or online forum member, seek out someone who is willing to listen. It’s tempting to keep things bottled up, not wanting to burden someone else or share intimate feelings and fears. But sharing your experiences can help you feel understood, loved and not alone. A confidant can be a great source of strength and support for you, even if you’ve never met them.
Don’t just consider relaxing techniques that help you feel calm, but also address any anxiety triggers. Once you do, it’ll be easier to steer clear of those situations or figure out how you can change your perspective, so the wait isn’t that difficult.